Practicing holding space for our children to have big feelings while also holding space for ourselves is one of the most important parenting processes. Holding space builds intimacy and trust, both of which are vital for loving, secure bonded connection.
Tantrums don’t stop when our children grow out of being toddlers but we can set the stage when they are toddlers for them to feel safe letting go.
When my child tantrums I keep repeating three mantras that were passed down to me:
1) We can't hurt ourselves.
2) We can't hurt each other.
3) We can't hurt our space.
As my son has grown into a teenager these three guidelines continue to be guiding principles.
The message is...”You can feel and have big feelings and stay safe.”
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